The neurological system regulates how our bodies function, language determines how we interface and communicate with other people, and our programming determines the kinds of models of the world we create. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a method of influencing brain behavior (“neuro”) through the use of language (“linguistic”) and other types of communication to enable a person to “recode” the way the brain responds (“programming”) and manifest new and better behaviors. NLP also uses hypnosis and self-hypnosis to help achieve the change (“programming”) that is wanted.
This method was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in California, United States, in the 1970s. They claim that NLP methodology can model the skills of exceptional people, allowing anyone to acquire those skills.
NLP is a multi-dimensional process that involves not only the development of behavioral competence and flexibility but also strategic thinking and an understanding of the mental and cognitive processes behind the behavior. NLP provides tools and skills for the development of states of individual excellence and establishes a system of empowering beliefs and presuppositions about what human beings are, what communication is, and what the process of change is all about.
Six pillars are the foundations upon which NLP is formed:
- You: Your emotional state and level of skill
- The Presuppositions: The principles of NLP
- Outcome: Knowing what you want
- Rapport: The quality of the relationship
- Feedback and Sensory Acuity: How you know you are getting what you want
- Flexibility: The ability to do something else if what you are doing is not working
The NLP Presuppositions
- The map is not the territory. Every person has their own individual map of the world. There is no single correct map of the world.
- Respect other people’s model of the world.
- People are not their behaviors. Accept the person; change the behavior.
- Behavior and change are to be evaluated in terms of context and ecology. People make the best choices available to them given the possibilities and capabilities that they perceive available to them from their model of the world. Behavior is geared for adaptation, and present behavior is the best choice available. Every behavior is motivated by a positive intention.
- Calibrate behavior. The most important information about a person is that person’s behavior.
- Resistance in a client is a sign of a lack of rapport. There are no resistant clients, only inflexible communicators. Effective communicators accept and utilize all communication presented to them.
- You are in charge of your mind and, therefore, of your results.
- People have all the resources they need to succeed and achieve their desired outcomes.
- There is only feedback! (There is no failure, only feedback.)
- The meaning of communication is the response you get.
- The Law of Requisite Variety—the system or person with the most flexibility of behavior will control the system.
- All procedures should be designed to increase choice.
- If what you are doing is not getting the response you want, then keep varying your behavior until you do elicit the response for which you are looking.
- It is not possible to isolate any one part of a system from the rest of the system. People cannot not influence each other. Interactions between people form feedback loops such that a person will be affected by the results that their own actions create with respect to other people.
What if you could learn how to control your own state of mind so that you could feel exactly how you want to feel—confident, motivated, focused, creative, sexy, whatever feeling you want – at any time you want?
There are plenty of NLP technics and models to help you reach your goals, such as
- Matching and Mirroring for gaining rapport;
- Pacing and Leading for testing the rapport (if you lead, they follow);
- Well-Formed Outcome for knowing what you want and what resources and obstacles are;
- New Behavior Generator (NBG) and Swish for changing your behavior;
- Circle of Excellence for reaching your own resources;
- Six-Step Reframing for changing your beliefs;
- and many others.
Control your mind, and you will control your world. NLP techniques can assist you with acquiring those skills.
The JumboLiving Team